I am cautious in making friends and won’t apologize for it!

Yup…that about sums it up!

For people who know me personally, they would surely agree with that statement!  I am a Capricorn true and true and especially when it comes to meeting people, making friends and maintaining friendships.


I am super Cautious when it come to friendships.  In the past 5 years, I have ended a few long term friendships with people that I thought would be forever friends. I will always be cordial to them, but I will never allow them to get close enough to me to hurt me again.  It is and has been very painful and totally has thrown me for a loop, but reminds me daily why I have always been Cautious in making friends….especially with females.

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Anyone who knows me, knows that I can count my good good friends on 1 hand. I have a handful of girlfriends and a few male friends that I know even if we speak everyday or if we don’t speak often, I can call them and they got me! They know me and love me anyway and will have my back always!

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People are always surprised to know that I don’t consider myself a people person AT ALL!!! In taking the Myers Briggs a few times, I always have fallen in the Introvert subcategories.  Once I get to know you and am less Cautious, I definitely loosen up and become more engaging as a person.  If I am with a group of people that I feel comfortable with, I can become more of an Extrovert…to an extent.

I have always been Cautious  and “slow to warm up,” meaning I am typically uneasy or Cautious in new situations or with unfamiliar people. I don’t like being with just anyone; and will always seek out trusted people and friends in social situations. I often stay on the “sidelines” for a while, watching what others are doing until I feel comfortable enough to join in. My initial interaction in new social situations is often seen as stand-offish, snobby or bougie but really I am simply Cautious.

In a world and time when people are making ‘friends’ left and right and at a drop of a hat through social media and other outlets, I am happy to be Cautions with whom I let into my circle and whom I call a friend.

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I have some people in my life right now who are stepping up into the friend category but they will have to get past my Cautious fence to get there. If they are willing to put in the work to build and maintain the friendship, I welcome opening my Cautious  gate to let them in!

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Are you cautious with developing friendships? What are you cautious about?

Linking up with my favorite wordsmith Deb for Wednesday Word


I am hoping you were able to figure out that today’s word is : Cautious

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19 thoughts on “I am cautious in making friends and won’t apologize for it!

  1. Coco says:

    Interesting twist on this topic. I’d say I’m pretty open to making friends, but it does take time. And I am cautious about who I “friend” on Facebook and try to keep that to “real life” friends.

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  2. ilkasblog says:

    Hey Tamieka- this is my first time on your blog. Nice to meet you! I’ve always been cautious about a lot of things, and even more so as I’m getting older. I think when it comes to safety issues I’m super cautious. As I was reading on another blog this morning, being too cautious can sometimes also hold you back, like in a race for example. When you’re just too scared to give it all your all because you’re too scared not to be able to finish and therefore slacking off in your performance. I thought that was an interesting point.

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    • fitballingrunningmom says:

      Thanks for stopping by and saying ‘hello!’ 🙂

      I agree….cautiousness can surely hold you back. That happened to me this morning at my track workout but our track lead pushed me past my comfort zone and I crushed the workout.


  3. Chocolaterunsjudy says:

    I wouldn’t say that I am cautious with making friends, just that it seems difficult for me. Except online. So much easier online & you really can get very close to people you never meet in RL!

    Funny, your post sounds like you were describing me, except I am an Aquarius, not a Capricorn!

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  4. Alison Scofield says:

    I am typically cautious in who I befriend as well. Mainly because my family is very important to me, so if you are going to take my time away from them then you better be pretty special! I don’t have many close friends, and I’d say that my husband is my best friend. That seems to be enough for me!

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