It’s Wednesday…..no need to wonder what is going on here on the blog….you know what it is….It’s Wednesday Word Link-Up with Deb!!
Today’s word: JUDGMENTAL
I am known for saying ‘Judgment is for Jesus!’ and I whole heartily believe that but it doesn’t stop me from being quite judgy (is that a word….it is today) at times. Unfortunately, I have had examples of judgmental people in my life and although I despise this trait, I have to admit that it is a work in progress for me daily as I try to break the hold that has surrounded me just about my entire life.
A few examples in my life that I shamefully admit to being that lady who judges ;(
-I work for Health and Human Services, where we support the poorest, neediest of the poor in the county. Our core services protect the community’s health, protect the health and safety of at-risk children and vulnerable adults and address basic human needs including food, shelter and clothing.
My office is located in the income support wing(food stamps, child care subsidy, emergency cash assistance). I don’t work for this department but this is where my office is.
99% of the people who come into the office are single moms. I know that some of these moms are single moms due to poor choices but I have to remind myself that not all single moms are moms by choice. There could have been some sexual trauma/abuse/assault that lead to the pregnancy. They could be recently single due to divorce/separation/escape. They could have been brave enough to choose to be single versus putting up with an abusive spouse. I don’t know their life and their story and I have to stop myself often from judging.
-So you are coming up to ask for financial assistance but you are driving up in a Range Rover/ Mercedes/Expedition….what I don’t know is that you may have borrowed that car from a friend just so that you are able to get to the income support office and back to work during your lunch break instead of having to take off the entire day and travel by public transportation.
-So you order a buffet of food and a diet coke….What I don’t know is that diet coke may be their beginning steps to making a healthier life style change by cutting down on sugar and caffeine;
-So you have 1 child out of wedlock and whose father is not in their life and you talk about the struggle and then you get pregnant again by a guy you are casually dating….what I don’t know is that you may be getting nervous about ‘the window closing’ and you want to have one more child;
-So you think it is ok to wear that outfit (the one you wore to the club last week) to work…..what I don’t know is that this might be the only ‘dress up’ outfit that you have and it has to serve multi purposes;
-So you have 3 kids by 3 different men and now your oldest (just out of college) is pregnant and now you are having your younger daughter read The Wait….what I don’t know is that you have talked to your daughters about your relationship mistakes and you were/are hoping that they will learn from your mistakes and you are using The Wait to reinforce what you have taught them;
-So you post pictures of you and your family happy and smiling on FB but I know that your life is NOTHING like that….what I don’t know is that this may be your way of coping with the -ish that is happening in your life;
So there you have it…some of my shameful judgmental occurrences….I am truly embarrassed and ashamed but I know that I am working consciously everyday to be less judgmental. I am consciously working on thinking the best of people and to remind myself that what appears to be going on the outside is not always what it is. Everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt.
Are you ever judgmental?
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